Ok, I know there are women all over the world and here in Cypress who do it all, all the time. So I sat back and said "whew." 360 days a year I am blessed.
There would have been a time, not so long ago, when this would have rocked my world. I would have cried and panicked. But now, I looked at my kids told them what was happening and how the schedule was changing and that we had to jump in and help one another. Everyone was on board except... the older two.
They wanted their lives to be just how they planned them out to be. They didn't pitch in, or make a sacrifice. They expected everyone else to adjust to make their plans work.
hmmmm..... there's a lesson here I just know it. I think it might be a doozy.
So the two little guys and I had a meeting. I explained that they would not be able to go to bed on time, they would have to attend an hour long meeting with me, in their pajamas and they would have to rise and shine in the morning without complaining.
They both said in unison "Ok, Mommy, we love you. Let's go! Can we bring our DS's?" "No sweethearts you can't." "Ok... (insert sad cute pouty faces here).
But, what to do about the older two?
I didn't yell or scream, or berate them for their choice, but they started getting the picture when I said it was time to go and they asked for help. I said simply "I am sorry, if you want to do your schedule you will have to get all your things together. I am busy getting the house ready for tonight."
So we all load up and a little voice from the back of the car says "Mommy, thank you for making sacrifices for us. I am sorry I made a bad choice."
One down, one to go. Victory is close....
The last one though will be the toughest to turn. He is really struggling right now.
I would love to tell you he wants to be an adult and is testing my boundaries, but I can't. I would love to tell you he is striving for his independence and is lashing out because he wants to take control of his life, but I can't.
I can tell you he is resorting to 18 month old behavior where a parent does everything for him and provides everything without any consequences for bad behavior. I can tell you he doesn't really care about anything except getting what he wants on his timeline. I can tell you that no amount of consequences really makes a difference because in the end he doesn't really care about anything right now. (We are of course in the off season for golf...)
It's been really interesting lately...
So this morning as I write this, my youngest has fallen back asleep on the couch. We couldn't find him during breakfast at 7:15. The poor little guy had gotten up in the middle of breakfast and laid back down on the couch. Of course now it's 9:30 and he's still sleeping....
I wish Jason were here to see this. This is what happens. Your actions affect others. See it didn't immediately affect Jack on Monday or even Tuesday, but on Wednesday the little guy just couldn't keep up with big brother. And so many times you aren't around to see the affects of your actions on others.
So like Jack, sometimes you just need a nap. When things are too much... When life happens to you because of others choices.... you just need to take your self out of the equation. It's ok. Just rest and be ready for your day when you wake up. Life will still be waiting for you. That's the great thing about life, isn't it? It's always there, in motion, waiting for you to hop back in when you are ready.
Here is one of my favorite Irish blessings for you today:
May God give you...
For every storm a rainbow,
For every tear a smile,
For every care a promise,
And a blessing for every trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh a sweet song,
And an answer for every prayer.
Happy napping!!
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